使他的興趣轉移。

http://www.mingpaosf.com/htm/News/20080911/su8.htm\

fh:若有能力，有胸懷貫徹「人生以『施』為目的
fh: 多情是美事，情如財富，多才能獻，獻比受好，獻不是吃虧，而是特權，是便宜。
fh: premier helps -- 更重要的是讓朋友戒掉賭癮。可以帶他去參加別的活動，高爾夫、釣魚、打獵、露營、遊山玩水，遠離賭局，疏遠賭友，使他的興趣轉移。


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談「情」
劉荒田 2008年9月11日

散文大家王鼎鈞先生有隨筆說「情」，結尾道：「有情」也有秘訣，那就是對一切「情」不苛求、也不絕望，朋友不能替你還債，也不會幫助強盜來搶錢，兩者之間還可以發生許多事情。

以「還債」為例，將這「兩者之間」引申下去。且說較常見的賭博債。某人嗜賭，輸去巨款，向「大耳窿」舉債，利息是「驢打滾」式，一旦到期還不了，債主上門，先是潑油漆警告，往下，取欠債人的手足乃至性命。作為賭徒的朋友，「有情」的極端，該是為之解燃眉之急，代還本息。「絕情」的極端乃是乘人之危，給強盜通風報信，把賭徒跪破膝蓋才借到、用來還賭債的錢搶個精光。這二者，一般人都做不到，於前者，是限於財力和耐性；於後者，是限於良心。鐵石心腸成就豪傑，我們卻受不了遭罪者的哀號。

那麼，只好取中庸之道。如果堅決不借，讓賭徒斷絕一切幻想，好改過遷善，誠然是釜底抽薪，但又不忍心看他受追債的兇徒欺負，只好先借小債，不過須有抵押，借方須訂好還款計劃，盡快清還。且須聲明，只此一次，下不為例。這是治標。更重要的是讓朋友戒掉賭癮。可以帶他去參加別的活動，高爾夫、釣魚、打獵、露營、遊山玩水，遠離賭局，疏遠賭友，使他的興趣轉移。

至於別的債務，如人情債，則較賭債更難處理。若單講情字，則只涉及有還是無，濃還是淡，無關是非。是非是「理」的轄區。不苛求，是不斤斤於償還；山盟海誓，嘔心瀝血的愛，也會完結，分手以後，記住對方的好就夠；孩子大了，讓他單飛，不要強迫他天天在家陪父母。不苛求，是不死纏爛打，明知無可挽回，也不肯放手。不絕望，先是對人性中的善不棄守，再是不放棄期待。

多情是美事，情如財富，多才能獻，獻比受好，獻不是吃虧，而是特權，是便宜。寫詩寫了60多年的紀弦老人有一名言：人生的目的在於負債。反過來，若有能力，有胸懷貫徹「人生以『施』為目的」，那可算最大的「不亦快哉」了！

script to say 每個月就可以按時收到支票 = retire NOW@ Premier

退休生活喜與憂
陳嘉碧 2008年9月11日

fh: 每個月就可以按時收到支票 = retire NOW@ Premier

fh: 經營一間餐館，但因為缺乏人力，於是回去大陸娶了一個年輕三十年的妻子回來。誰知時不予他，除了可以在餐館內打發時間外，連自己的薪水也賺不到，還要把退休前積蓄下來的錢，全部賠在這間餐館上，年輕的妻子為他生了一個女兒，因為要照顧女兒，自然不能在餐館幫手。終於，他要以破產去避免債主臨門。== BUILD TEAM WITHOUT SPENDING

以破產去渡退休之年，真令人惋惜。


除了身家豐厚的商家之外，美國的一般打工仔，最盼望的就是退休，不論是六十二或是六十五歲，一直在等待那一天，不用按時依候上下班；亦不會有工作壓力，每個月就可以按時收到政府寄來的退休支票，也許數目不及工作時多，但只要想到不用工作就有錢收時，那種興奮是難以形容的。

有一天早上，臥在床上張開眼時，竟然是無須急忙起床準備上班，高興之餘應說還帶有一份失落感，雖然不用上班，但還是要起床的，起床之後做些什麼呢？一個半生都在工作的人，突然不用有規律地工作，日子是很難過的。

如果退休時夫妻雙全還好一點，在家有個老伴，因為此時的兒女亦應已成家立室，各人有各人的家庭。與老伴一同去旅遊是最開心的事，不過，亦只限於某些地方和某些時間，慢慢的就會厭倦，而且亦要看退休前的積蓄，不是人人都可以負擔旅遊的費用的。

為兒女照顧小朋友，是每一個老人家都樂意做的事，不過，一般老人家都不想長期去照顧孫兒，比年輕時照顧自己的子女責任更大，很多人亦不想父母為自己照顧兒女的，偶然照顧孫兒一兩天，對老人家來說才是一種樂趣。時間太多就變成是一種精神負擔了。

有一個退休男人，竟然因為閒得發慌，而去重操故業一再經營一間餐館，但因為缺乏人力，於是回去大陸娶了一個年輕三十年的妻子回來。誰知時不予他，除了可以在餐館內打發時間外，連自己的薪水也賺不到，還要把退休前積蓄下來的錢，全部賠在這間餐館上，年輕的妻子為他生了一個女兒，因為要照顧女兒，自然不能在餐館幫手。終於，他要以破產去避免債主臨門。

以破產去渡退休之年，真令人惋惜。

big event BUILD dream =花10萬人民幣買一張入場券值得嗎？

魅力北京
金鳳 2008年9月11日

走進北京，奧運的氣息撲面而來。在北京的街頭，從來沒有見過如此密集的花壇，從來沒有遇到過如此眾多、面帶微笑的志願者。奧運開幕的那一夜，我的一位從歐洲歸來的同學是在天安門廣場度過的。那種激情迸發的時刻，那樣驚心動魄的煙火，那種萬眾歡騰的場面，也許除了鳥巢，只有站在天安門廣場，站在千萬個黑頭髮、黑眼睛的同胞中間，熾烈的感情才能發揮到極致，共鳴的感覺才能體會得最深切。

還有一位同學到鳥巢參加了開幕式，我後來問她，那天晚上多悶熱啊，花10萬人民幣買一張入場券值得嗎？她告訴我絕對值得。現場的氣氛和感覺實在太震撼人心，太永生難忘了。張藝謀確實是個奇才，中國人實在太偉大。我理解她的心情，因為即使我在家裏看電視，看到那雄偉壯麗的場面，精彩紛呈的表演，看到飄動的國旗和五環旗，看到五洲四海的運動員歡呼雀躍地走進鳥巢，也不禁為這場全世界共同的狂歡而感動、驚喜。

在網上看過鳥巢的照片，也聽過不少諷刺和貶損這個建築物的言論。然而當8月21日早晨，我在雨中第一次走進它，立刻被它既粗獷又細膩的風格所折服，所有聽來的、看來的對它的負面指責，都在走進鳥巢的一瞬間煙消雲散。魅力四射的鳥巢，鋼筋鐵骨的鳥巢，雄偉地矗立在北京中軸線上，氣勢磅礡、壯美無雙。 (之一)

stock market -失去一生的積蓄 by Enron - do u want ?

安然150萬股東將獲賠720億
美史上最大證券交易欺詐案達和解 2008年9月10日

【明報專訊】據一項和解協議，已倒閉的安然公司之股票持有人和投資者，將獲得720億元的賠償，大約150萬人和實體有資格獲得賠償。這是美國史上最大數額的證券交易欺詐案和解協議。

主要原告律師樓CoughlinStoiaGellerRudman-

&Robins的發言人紐曼說，普通股票的持有人每股平均獲賠償6.79元，優先股每股平均賠償168.50元。律師樓希望今年底完成賠償的分配工作。

紐曼說，投資者和股票持有人必須在1997年9月9日至2001年12月2日之間，購買安然或跟安然相關的證券，才符合賠償資格。

這間總部設於得州並以能源業務為主的公司，在傳出不合法的會計欺詐行為後，於2001年倒閉。該公司的數名主管最終被定罪和判刑。安然的倒閉導致4,000名員工失去工作，並有很多失去一生的積蓄，投資者的損失更多達數十億元。

得州休斯頓聯邦地方法官梅琳達‧哈蒙周一批准上述和解協議，並同意將賠償額的9.52%用以支付律師費，約等於6.88億元另加利息。

根據協議，CIBC將支付24億元摩根大通(JPMorganChase)以及花旗銀行20億元。美國銀行雷曼公司(Lehman)和亞瑟‧安德遜(ArthurAndersen)將支較小數額的賠償。

site for real estate

rentail
http://www.rentingauthority.com/#


My property report for the previous month is now on my website:
http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/monthly.shtml

Lists of houses that sold (closed escrow) are also available:
Palo Alto http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-PA.htm
Menlo Park http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-MP.htm
Los Altos http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-LA.htm
Los Altos Hills http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-LAH.htm
Mountain View http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-MV.htm
Cupertino http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-CU.htm
Sunnyvale http://www.julianalee.com/reinfo/sold-SU.htm

all song for Karokay that fh sing

鄭伊健-一生愛你一個
明年今日MV 曲：陳少霞　　詞：林夕 主唱：陳奕迅
老鼠愛大米 楊臣剛 楊臣剛



http://hk.video.yahoo.com/video/video.html?id=248336&pt=v
http://hk.video.yahoo.com/video/video.html?id=299454
http://comic.sina.com/f/2004-11-23/31363.shtml

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老鼠愛大米

歌手:twins_


(廣東版)
______G_______D______Em______C
g:也許家中的唱機_太多失戀歌播放
____G_____C____Am______D
__令人熟內向_會聽到我感傷
______G_______D______Em______Bm
c:其實並未太淒涼_只因慣了這風傷
______C________D_____G
__徘徊幻覺太多失了_這方向
______Bm______Em_____C_______G
g:直到有你這一天_打開我沉悶心窗
______Bm______Em____C_______D
__在這人來人往交叉點找到這目光
______Bm______Em_____C_______G
c:是你性格有思想_使我完全地欣賞
______Bm______Em____Am_______D
__令我何時何處心中都偷笑_這交往
______G_____Em_____G_______Bm
g:我愛你愛著你_就像老鼠愛大米
______C_______Bm_______Am______D
__為你開間咖啡店_一起去沖加新發展
______G_____Em_____G_______Bm
c:我想你想著你_不管有多麼的苦
______C_______Bm_______Am____D______G
__令缺點都變優點_多得你給我改變_死心一遍
_______C_______Bm_______Am____D______G
__(樂意天天見幾見_歡喜你不會短淺_只此一見)

==
老鼠愛大米 -- 香香
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Db Ab Bbm Gb
* 我听見你的聲音 有種特別的感覺
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讓我不斷想 不敢再忘記你
Db Ab Bbm Abdim7
我記得有一個人 永遠留在我心中
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哪怕只能夠這樣的想你

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# 如果真的有一天 愛情理想會實現
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我會 倍努力好好對你永遠不改變
Fm Bbm Gb Ab Db
不管路有多麼遠 一定會讓它實現
Fm Bbm Eb Gbm Ab
我會親親在你耳邊對你說 對你說

Db Bbm Db Abdim7
@ 我愛你愛著你 就像老鼠愛大米
Gb Db Ebm Ab
不管有多少風雨 我都會依然陪著你
Db Bbm Db Abdim7
我想你想著你 不管有多麼的苦
Gb Db Ebm Ab Db
只要能讓你開心我什麼都願 意 這樣愛你

Repeat * # @

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我愛你愛著你 就像老鼠愛大米
Ab Eb Fm Bb
不管有多少風雨 我都會依然陪著你
Eb Cm Eb Bbdim7
我想你想著你 不管有多麼的苦
Ab Eb Fm Bb Eb
只要能讓你開心我什麼都願意 這樣愛你

BE HUNGRY BE FOOLISH

Stanford Report, June 14, 2005
'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

no helen - so different, fh dont' smoke, don't gamble

so fh won't go down!

I need to prevent that threat
I need to prevent what!?